Connecting With Our Children

Parents want a special relationship with their children Parents care. They want to guide their children through the rough spots in life and help them make the right decisions. Research shows that a special parental connection is extremely important in safeguarding children against dangers such as substance abuse, sexual promiscuity, criminal activity, and suicide. This is more important than ever before in today's troubled world. But what does making this connection mean? Based on Bowen family systems theory, Connecting with Our Children shows parents how to build the connection found in better relationships. Now parents have a new way to think about and respond to family problems. The author examines common concerns, such as:

• How substance abuse can repeat through generations
• Why fusions between family members drive conflict
• How family anxiety can erupt into violence
• Whether stepfamilies can create a new family unit
• What roles faith and humor play in a family
• How effective are special contributions made by connections with grandparents
  Numerous practical examples and stories illustrate familiar situations and concerns, so that parents can learn how to deal with the often confusing situations surrounding their children, as well as those within their own lives. With a different perspective, parents can learn to overcome these difficulties, creating a stronger family and a happier, more open relationship between parent and child.

Auteur

ROBERTA M. GILBERT, M.D., is a psychiatrist in private practice and on the faculty of the Georgetown Family Center. She is a noted expert in the innovative family systems theory pioneered by the late Dr. Murray Bowen. She is the author of the widely acclaimed Extraordinary Relationships (Wiley).

Contenu

REARING CHILDREN IN A TROUBLED WORLD.

What in the World Is Happening?

How Problems Develop in Young People.

Why Johnny Isn't Learning.

Irresponsible Behavior and Substance Abuse.

Emotional Illness.

Physical Illness.

Family Violence.

Beyond the Problem Focus.

HOW SUCCESSFUL PARENTS THINK -
A SYNOPSIS OF BOWEN FAMILY SYSTEMS THEORY FOR PARENTS.

Families Are Systems.

Anxiety and Its Crucial Effects.

The Family as an Emotional Unit-- Reactivity in Action.

The Wonderful Range of People and Families.

Why Children in the Same Family Turn Out So Differently.

How Anxiety Travels Through Generations.

Birth Order, Personality, and Relationships.

Societal Chaos and the Family.

PARENTS CONNECTING.

Present and Accounted For.

The Emotional Nucleus--the Parents' Relationship.

Connecting with Our Children.

Ages and Stages of Family Life.

The Single Parent and Combined Families.

Play, Self-Regulation, and the Many Ways to Deal with Anxiety.

Family Life as a Spiritual Journey.

On Being a Self in the Generations.

In Conlusion--a Personal Note.

Notes.

Appendices.

Index.