I first met Kath in a Psych-Ward where we both worked as nurses. Little did I know the adventure we had inadvertently embarked upon would last for over thirty years. I learned how her past affected her presence but I had no idea that her ultimate future would be a fatal date with cancer. As a critical care nurse, my professional experience in healthcare frequently offered me me unwanted insight into the quality of the medical care that she received. She learned how to battle the faceless bureaucracy of the entrenched healthcare system and often won but occasionally lost. The unfortunate aspect of being a nurse for forty years was that her end became obvious but it was never spoken out loud. That was hard but saying goodbye without saying it was even harder. The journey changed my life. Reading her story might just change yours.