The Self-Love Experiment

Put a stop to self-sabotage and overcome your fears so that you can gain the confidence you need to reach your goals and become your own best friend. Too many people seem to believe that they are not allowed to put themselves first or go after their own dreams out of fear of being selfish or sacrificing others' needs. The Self-Love Experiment rectifies this problem. Whether you want to achieve weight loss, land your dream job, find your soul mate, or get out of debt, it all comes back to self-love and accepting yourself first. Shannon Kaiser learned the secrets to loving herself, finding purpose, and living a passion-filled life after recovering from eating disorders, drug addictions, corporate burnout, and depression. Shannon walks you through her own personal experiment, a simple plan that compassionately guides you through the process of removing fear-based thoughts, so you can fall in love with life. If you want to change your outcome in life, you have to change your daily habits and perspective. Shannon takes you on this great journey into self-love and true self-acceptance.

"Shannon Kaiser inspires people to ditch what doesn't serve them and follow their paths to true joy and satisfaction."
—Mind Body Green

"One of the freshest voices in mental health and wellness, Shannon is on a mission to empower others to be true to themselves and live their full potential.”
— Marci Shimoff, New York Times bestselling author of Happy for No Reason and Chicken Soup for the Woman’s Soul

"Shannon Kaiser is an incredible woman on a mission to help people find peace, happiness, and fulfillment in their lives. Her desire to serve others shines through all of her work."
—Gabrielle Bernstein, New York Times bestselling author of *May Cause Miracles

* "[A] profound book and a must-read for anyone that prioritizes happiness. . . . This is the playbook for making small changes and shifts that will yield you large results in your happiness."
—Kristine Carlson, New York Times bestselling author of Don't Sweat the Small Stuff for Women

"Shannon offers easy-to-absorb advice to help you become your happiest, most loved, highest potential self—and best of all she makes it a fun process. My kind of gal."
—Karen Salmansohn, bestselling author of How to Be Happy, Dammit: A Cynic's Guide to Spiritual Happiness

"This is a breakthrough guide to help you release negative thought patterns and live a life you are in love with."
—Christine Hassler, life coach, speaker, and author of 20-Something, 20-Everything and Expectation Hangover

"She not only believes in the message of happiness, she lives it and breathes it. Every time I talk to Shannon, happiness finds a way in. Pick up this book and breathe in some happiness into your heart and mind."
—Christine Arylo, author of Madly in Love with ME

"I admire Shannon because she's battled her own demons—overcoming depression, drug addiction, and an eating disorder—and has emerged with an enthusiasm for life, a belief in herself, and a passion for helping others identify and pursue what they truly want."
—Lori Deschene, founder of TinyBuddha.com and author Tiny Buddha: Simple Wisdom for Life's Hard Questions

"Shannon shares her story of vulnerability and victory and emerges as a radiant example of what is possible with a mental makeover. Shannon gives you an easy-to-follow road map to lasting happiness, joy, and inner transformation. People say happiness is an inside job—this is the ultimate how-to manual."
—Amy Leigh Mercree, author of *The Spiritual Girl's Guide to Dating

 “*The Self-Love Experiment is the book I wish I’d had in my 20’s. And my 30’s. Now more than ever, we as women need to rise up and empower ourselves and each other. Shannon’s book is the necessary guidebook we need to get ourselves there. Self-love can seem elusive, but Shannon has broken it down in easy to digest lessons.”
*— Andrea Owen, Author of 52 Ways to Live a Kick-Ass Life: BS-Free Wisdom to Ignite Your Inner Badass and Live the Life You Deserve 
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“Shannon’s blazing one hell-of-a self-love trial for others to show up, release fear, and live life, fully. You know, one where your dreams come true, and we live happily ever after in love, with ourselves! The world needs this self-love injection. And so do you.”*

• —Emma Mildon, bestselling author of The Soul Searcher's Handbook and *Evolution of Goddess

“Shannon is an absolute Goddess. She’s a beautiful example of what is possible when you free yourself from self-criticism, blame and guilt, and choose love instead. I am in total adoration of this woman and that's because of how in love she is with herself, the world and life! Thank you, Shannon for being such a light. Readers, you are in for a treat!"
—Mel Wells, Eating Psychology Coach and Bestselling Author of 'The Goddess Revolution: Make Peace With Food, Love Your Body and Reclaim Your Life”

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Shannon Kaiser

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LET GO OF THE OUTCOME
 
We secretly wait in vain on the path to becoming our better self. We want to become the person who has reached the goal, the relationship, the healthy weight, or abundant bank account. We believe we are almost there but just not quite. This is the almost-paradise syndrome. I have a friend who’s talked about winning the lottery for the past twenty years. She always says, “When I win the lottery, I will buy a new car. When I win the lottery, I will invest in the self-development online program I’ve always wanted to take.” It is always when I “get,” then I will “do.” I always want to say, “Why don’t you do that now? Why is the lottery standing in your way?” Truth be told, if you really wanted it, couldn’t you find a way to get it now? Yes, in fact this is the mindset we want to adopt. In order to reach our true potential, we have to show up for ourselves in the present by following through on our dreams right now, not later.
 
When we say things like “When I win the lottery, when I lose weight or meet my soul mate, then I will be happy,” we are subconsciously sending a message to ourselves that we don’t matter and our desires are not a worthy pursuit. Meaning, we are waiting for external factors: the lottery, the boss to give us the raise, another person to fill the romantic void, etc. In doing this we are settling. I call this the almost-paradise syndrome. The almost-paradise is the pursuit of becoming but with an attention on lack. We want something that has not yet arrived, so we focus more on how it is not here. This lack builds up and prevents us from further pursuing our true desires. It keeps us in a holding pattern. Twenty years later my friend has still to win the jackpot because she is stuck in almost-paradise.
 
Life is in this moment, not tomorrow. The greatest gift The Self-Love Experiment can give us is to fully understand that paradise is right here, always. It is not in some far-off dream always beyond our grasp — it is within us, in our hearts. Paradise is realizing that you are perfect, in this moment, just as you are.
 
One of my favorite movies, The Beach (2000), based on the book by Alex Garland, is about the pursuit of perfection. The movie is filled with metaphors and idealistic forms of life. For many of us, no matter our age, background, economic, religious, social preferences, we are always in search of something. As quoted therein: *We circle our lives trying to find that missing piece, as if paradise will give us our happy…