Calmer, Easier, Happier Parenting

Zusatztext Praise for Calmer! Easier! Happier Parenting It has taken the stress out of parentingI'll probably live 10 years longer.Helena Bonham Carter Informationen zum Autor Noël Janis-Norton is the founder and director of the Calmer, Easier, Happier Parenting Centre in London. She divides her time between the UK and the US. Klappentext A simple yet revolutionary alternative to helicopter parenting and tiger moms. Behavioral specialist Janis-Norton outlines a clear! step-by-step plan that will help any parent raise a child who is cooperative and considerate! confident and self-reliant. INTRODUCTION Many years ago I was a new and inexperienced teacher, fresh out of teachers' college at New York University. In my ?rst post I noticed that in some classrooms the children were shouting out, ?nding excuses to get out of their seats, throwing paper airplanes across the room as soon as the teacher's back was turned, and ignoring the teacher's repeated pleas for silence. But in other classrooms the pupils were sitting where they had been told; they were concentrating and learningand smiling. Clearly they were enjoying school, and they were proud of what they were achieving. I was in awe of the excellent teachers who were able to motivate and inspire. I could see that it was not a coincidence that these were also the teachers who were able to give an instruction and know that it would be carried out. Within my ?rst few days in the classroom I became painfully aware that my four years of teacher-training had taught me almost nothing about how to manage a classroom. I had learned a lot about how to teach, but the unspoken assumption of my professors had been that all I had to do was turn up, and I would be greeted by a classroom full of quiet, motivated children gazing up at me raptly with sunshiny faces, eager to soak up everything I could teach them. I had assumed, without having given it much thought, that I would enjoy teaching and that I would be good at it. But I saw immediately that I just wasn't equipped for reality. The pupils in this school did not automatically respect teachers. These children did not believe that it was their job to pay attention or do their best. So during my lunch hours in the staff room I listened carefully to the conversations of the seasoned veterans, hoping to learn the secrets of their success. I approached the teachers I admired and asked them how they managed to achieve such calm, focused classrooms. One kindly teacher tried to reassure me: Don't worry, dear. In a few years you'll get the hang of it. This did not reassure me because I was worried that unless I ?gured out how to bring order to my classroom, I wouldn't last a few years. One teacher, whom I frequently heard shouting at her unruly class, interrupted to give me this piece of advice: These children! They're animals! Don't expect too much from them, and you won't be disappointed. I knew that couldn't be right because there were a handful of teachers at the school who had earned the respect of their pupils. These teachers expected a great deal from their pupils, and they were not disappointed. One teacher tried to explain: You just have to show them you mean business. This sounded promising, but it didn't tell me how. Another teacher told me, You have to show them you believe they can do good work. This also sounded good, but once again, I didn't know how . And another teacher told me, You just have to let them know who's boss. When I asked the all-important how, I was told, You just have to put your foot down. I felt like asking, Which foot? I realized that these excellent teachers had been good at their job for so many years that they no longer had to think about how they got the results they got. They just didn't know how to put into words what they were doing that worked. So, sadly, they we...

Praise for Calmer, Easier, Happier Parenting

“It has taken the stress out of parenting—I’ll probably live 10 years longer.”—Helena Bonham Carter

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Noël Janis-Norton is the founder and director of the Calmer, Easier, Happier Parenting Centre in London. She divides her time between the UK and the US.

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A simple yet revolutionary alternative to helicopter parenting and tiger moms. Behavioral specialist Janis-Norton outlines a clear, step-by-step plan that will help any parent raise a child who is cooperative and considerate, confident and self-reliant.

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THE INTERNATIONAL BESTSELLING GUIDE TO THE 5 MUST-KNOW PARENTING STRATEGIES 

Tired of nagging, pleading, negotiating, or yelling just to get your kids to do the simple things you ask? You don’t need to be a Tiger Mom or a Helicopter Parent. There is a better way.

Calmer, Easier, Happier Parenting brings the joy back into family life and helps parents to raise confident, responsible adults.

Based on her forty-plus years of experience, behavioral specialist Noël Janis-Norton outlines a clear, step-by-step plan that will help any parent raise a child to be cooperative and considerate, confident and self-reliant. Transform your family life with these five strategies: Descriptive Praise, Preparing for Success, Reflective Listening, Never Ask Twice, and Rewards and Consequences. You’ll begin to see results almost immediately:

• Kids start cooperating the first time you ask
• Mornings, bedtimes, mealtimes and homework all become easier
• Even very resistant kids start saying” yes” instead of “no”

Full of examples and stories from real parents, this book offers the complete toolkit for achieving peaceful, productive parenting. Parents who have read How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk or Positive Parenting will appreciate Noël’s battle-tested methods and easy-to-follow strategies.

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INTRODUCTION

Many years ago I was a new and inexperienced teacher, fresh out of teachers’ college at New York University. In my ?rst post I noticed that in some classrooms the children were shouting out, ?nding excuses to get out of their seats, throwing paper airplanes across the room as soon as the teacher’s back was turned, and ignoring the teacher’s repeated pleas for silence. But in other classrooms the pupils were sitting where they had been told; they were concentrating and learning—and smiling. Clearly they were enjoying school, and they were proud of what they were achieving.

I was in awe of the excellent teachers who were able to motivate and inspire. I could see that it was not a coincidence that these were also the teachers who were able to give an instruction and know that it would be carried out. Within my ?rst few days in the classroom I became painfully aware that my four years of teacher-training had taught me almost nothing about how to manage a classroom. I had learned a lot about how to teach, but the unspoken assumption of my professors had been that all I had to do was turn up, and I would be greeted by a classroom full of quiet, motivated children gazing up at me raptly with sunshiny faces, eager to soak up everything I could teach them.

I had assumed, without having given it much thought, that I would enjoy teaching and that I would be good at it. But I saw immediately that I just wasn’t equipped for reality. The pupils in this school did not automatically respect teachers. These children did not believe that it was their job to pay attention or do their best. So during my lunch hours in the staff room I listened carefully to the conversations of the seasoned veterans, hoping to learn the secrets of their success. I approached the teachers I admired and asked them how they managed to achieve such calm, focused classrooms.

One kindly teacher tried to reassure me: “Don’t worry, dear. In a…