No More Meltdowns: Positive Strategies for Managing and Preventing Out-Of-Control Behavior

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Jed Baker, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist with over 12 years experience leading therapeutic groups with children, adults and families. He is a behavioral consultant for several New Jersey school systems, providing social skills training for students with pervasive developmental disorders and learning disabilities. In addition, he writes, lectures, and provides training throughout the Northeast on social skills training for individuals with Asperger Syndrome and related pervasive developmental disorders.

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It could happen at the grocery store. At a restaurant. At school. At home. Meltdowns are stressful for both child and adult, but Dr. Baker can help! Author of the award-winning Social Skills Picture Book series, Dr. Jed Baker offers parents and teachers strategies for preventing and managing meltdowns. His 20+ years of experience working with children on the autism spectrum, combined with his personal experiences raising his own children, have yielded time-tested strategies, and results! Dr. Baker offers an easy-to-follow, 4-step model that will improve your everyday relationships with the children in your life: 1) Managing your own emotions by adjusting your expectations, 2) Learning strategies to calm a meltdown in the moment, 3) Understanding why a meltdown occurs, and 4) Creating plans to prevent future meltdowns.

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Foreword

Introduction

THE PROBLEM

Chapter 1: Meltdowns: When rewards and punishments are not enough

• What is a meltdown?
• The usual parenting advice: start with rules and consequences
• The limits of discipline: when rewards and punishments no longer work
• But aren't meltdowns just manipulative behavior?
• Can we really expect no more meltdowns?

• An overview of the four-step model for reducing meltdowns Chapter 2: What are meltdowns made of?

• Fight, flight or freeze response
• Temperament
• Difficulties with abstract thinking and perspective taking
• Inflexibility
• An explosive combination THE SOLUTION

Chapter 3: Accepting and appreciating our children

• Controlling our own frustration
• Building competence
• Avoiding learned helplessness
• The 80/20 rule
• Anticipating frustration as part of learning

• When to avoid power struggles Chapter 4: De-escalating a meltdown

• How to de-escalate a meltdown
• Distractions
• When too much distraction can make things worse
• Helping children find their own distractions and calming strategies
• Steps for creating self-calming strategies Chapter 5: Understanding why repeat problems occur

Understanding the triggers

• The ABCs of behavior: Antecedent, Behavior, Consequence
• Getting the ABCs: Interviews and observations

• Seeing the pattern Chapter 6: Creating a prevention plan

• The components of a good prevention plan
• A prevention plan for Kevin
• The four types of meltdown situations

• Plans for the Four Types of Meltdown Situations Chapter 7: Demands

• Do your schoolwork
• Try it, it's delicious
• Hurry up, the bus is coming
• Clean up

• Let's go to the party Chapter 8: Waiting

• Just wait
• You can't always get what you want

• Okay, time to stop playing Chapter 9: Threats to self-image

• Winning isn't everything
• It's okay to make mistakes

• But names will never hurt you Chapter 10: Unmet wishes for attention

• I can't play with you now
• Don't be jealous

• Time to go to bed Chapter 11: Closing thoughts: Finding your own way

• Prevention plan form References