Confronting Shame

Informationen zum Autor Ilse Sand Klappentext Shame can underlie a multitude of common mental health problems including low self-esteem, depression and anxiety. Confronting Shame will help you understand and overcome your shame with reflective exercises in each chapter to rebuild your empathy and compassion towards yourself. Zusammenfassung Shame can underlie a multitude of common mental health problems including low self-esteem, depression and anxiety. Confronting Shame will help you understand and overcome your shame with reflective exercises in each chapter to rebuild your empathy and compassion towards yourself. Inhaltsverzeichnis 1: The Nature and Function of Shame The anxiety in shame You can be unaware of shame Situations that trigger shame The difference between shame and guilt A shame reaction is an alarm Shame is a social emotion 2: Chronic Shame Arises from Inharmonious Interactions When the feeling of belonging vanishes Self-esteem and sense of self Feeling truly seen A distorted mirror Attentive mirroring leads to inner support Lack of mirroring leads to an absence of self-support 3: Shame can be a reaction to a hole in your sense of self The fear of vanishing into a void Serious holes in our sense of self Lack of solid ground 4: Shame holds you back A difficult conversation 5: The false self as a defense against shame Success strengthens the false self The fantastic, invincible false self Shame about longing for love The false self can't stand intimacy Anger and contempt as a defense against intimacy Get out of a fairy tale Down and back home PART TWO Tools A vicious circle must be broken 6: Get to know yourself better Ask others for feedback How you receive feedback Film yourself Experience yourself from the inside Get in touch with an even deeper level of yourself Go into psychotherapy or take a course in self-development 7: Get close to your shame Working on your inner scenes of shame strengthens your sense of self Shame is a relational emotion Be cautious and choose your listener with care Take small steps when anxiety looms Shame after being verbally assaulted Shame about a lack of strength and energy 8: Give thought to whom you spend your time with Your childhood family Find good models Direct your attention to the healthy inner voices 9: Establish friendly contact with yourself It's not you there is something wrong with Don't obey fear From shame to guilt Rediscover empathy with yourself Write to yourself in a loving manner Through sorrow and on to self-compassion Afterword: Let emptiness bloom Are you hampered by shame? Test yourself Take the test with a grain of salt To those of you who score low Advice to those who score high Find the right helper An enormous opportunity for growth Bibliography Acknowledgments ...

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Ilse Sand

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Shame can underlie a multitude of common mental health problems including low self-esteem, depression and anxiety. Confronting Shame will help you understand and overcome your shame with reflective exercises in each chapter to rebuild your empathy and compassion towards yourself.

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1: The Nature and Function of Shame
The anxiety in shame
You can be unaware of shame
Situations that trigger shame
The difference between shame and guilt
A shame reaction is an alarm
Shame is a social emotion
2: Chronic Shame Arises from Inharmonious Interactions
When the feeling of belonging vanishes
Self-esteem and sense of self
Feeling truly seen
A distorted mirror
Attentive mirroring leads to inner support
Lack of mirroring leads to an absence of self-support
3: Shame can be a reaction to a hole in your sense of self
The fear of vanishing into a void
Serious holes in our sense of self
Lack of solid ground
4: Shame holds you back
A difficult conversation
5: The false self as a defense against shame
Success strengthens the false self
The fantastic, invincible false self
Shame about longing for love
The false self can't stand intimacy
Anger and contempt as a defense against intimacy
Get out of a fairy tale
Down and back home

PART TWO
Tools
A vicious circle must be broken
6: Get to know yourself better
Ask others for feedback
How you receive feedback
Film yourself
Experience yourself from the inside
Get in touch with an even deeper level of yourself
Go into psychotherapy or take a course in self-development
7: Get close to your shame
Working on your inner scenes of shame strengthens your sense of self
Shame is a relational emotion
Be cautious and choose your listener with care
Take small steps when anxiety looms
Shame after being verbally assaulted
Shame about a lack of strength and energy
8: Give thought to whom you spend your time with
Your childhood family
Find good models
Direct your attention to the healthy inner voices
9: Establish friendly contact with yourself
It's not you there is something wrong with
Don't obey fear
From shame to guilt
Rediscover empathy with yourself
Write to yourself in a loving manner
Through sorrow and on to self-compassion

Afterword: Let emptiness bloom
Are you hampered by shame? Test yourself
Take the test with a grain of salt
To those of you who score low
Advice to those who score high
Find the right helper
An enormous opportunity for growth
Bibliography
Acknowledgments