Good Enough

Tara is a clinical psychologist, and mother, who is passionate about helping parents -and children - navigate the current mental health crisis. During her 30 years of work, she has seen scores of troubled children, young adults and families in her clinics, and she is totally plugged in to the needs and concerns of young people today. Tara suggests a manifesto for parenting with six aims: children who grow up feeling that they are ''good enough'', who aren''t controlled by anxiety, feel relatively happy, and can regulate their emotions generally; and are able to leave home, with an intact relationship with their parents. The route to these aims? Not through trying to be a perfect parent, but rather by parents embracing their own good enough self. She looks how accepting our own flaws and limitations, and that of the hurly-burly world, we can help children adjust to this in their own lives. Exploring the cultural zeitgeist, the pressures on parents and children today and the fast-moving and highly nuanced world we live in, the book returns to the themes of firm and kind; good enough; and the relationship between parent and child again and again. She develops these themes through every age and stage, jumping backwards and forwards to think about how the decisions we make at one age play out in the longer term. In doing so she addresses many of the common difficulties in family life: in the early chapters focusing on babies, thinking about sleep; in the toddler section she looks at tantrums, in the childhood section there will be chapters on phones, food and friendship and in the teenage chapters, qualifications, expectations and sex and relationships will come to the fore. Throughout the book she will weave personal experience, research and clinical material to consider meeting the manifesto aims and in doing so she offers a straight-talking, easy-to-read road map for every parent.>

Préface
A powerful blueprint that invites parents to consider the concept of 'good enough' by addressing different aspects of mental health enabling us to avoid the pitfalls and guide us in our relationship with our child - from babyhood to fully functioning young adult.

Auteur

Dr Tara Porter is a Clinical Psychologist and writer working in north-west London. She draws on decades of experience to provide therapy to adolescents and adults in person and online. She uses her in-depth knowledge of the teenage mindset to support parents. Tara offers a variety of talks and workshops with pupils, staff and parents thinking about improving mental health. She writes and speaks regularly in the mainstream media about mental health.
Instagram: @drtaraporterpsychologist
Website: taraporterpsychologist.com

Résumé

Mental illness is on the rise among young people. Anxiety, depression, self-harm and oversubscription of meds is at an all-time high. Dr Tara Porter is a clinical psychologist with 30 years experience, who is passionate about helping parents - and children - navigate the current mental health crisis. In this easy-to-read book for parents with children of any age, she sets out her stall for redressing the balance in the way we parent amidst the challenges of modern life.

The key aim of the manifesto Tara presents in this book is to nurture children to grow up feeling that they are 'good enough'. Children who are not controlled by anxiety and who feel relatively happy and with an ability to regulate their emotions; who are able to eventually fly the nest with self-esteem intact. The route she advocates is for parents to embrace their own 'good enough' self. She looks at how accepting our own flaws and limitations, and that of the hurly-burly world, we can help children adjust to this in their own lives.

Exploring the cultural zeitgeist, the pressures on parents and children today and the fast-moving and highly nuanced world we live in, the book focusses on the themes of firm and kind; good enough; and the relationship between parent and child. Tara develops these themes through every age and stage from baby to young adult and in doing so she addresses many of the common difficulties in family life: in the early chapters focusing on babies, thinking about sleep; in the toddler section she looks at tantrums, in the childhood section there are chapters on phones, food and friendship and in the teenage chapters, qualifications, expectations and sex and relationships will come to the fore.

Expertly weaving personal experience, research and clinical material, Good Enough is an insightful, non-judgemental read and a clarion call to parents to offer balanced, boundaried emotional support to our children.

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*Praise for *You Don't Understand Me by Dr Tara Porter:

'This book is the greatest gift you could give your daughter' - Caitlin Moran

'After reading it I want to call every parent of every adolescent girl I know' - The Times

'If God were a mother, this is the Bible she would write for teenage girls and young women' - Caitlin Moran

'Full of knowledge, warmth, and humour about the challenges young girls face' - Julia Samuel