Validation

The key concept from psychology that unlocks true and lasting behavioral change

The validation skills from dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) revolutionized psychology by balancing the emphasis on changing behavior with a corresponding emphasis on acceptance. Now a prominent psychologist brings these validation skills out of therapy and into everyday life to help anyone decrease conflict, strengthen relationships, and change behaviors—in themselves and in others.
&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;As both a means and an end, validation has profound effects: it affirms a person&rsquo;s experience <and< unlocks their potential for growth. Dr. Caroline Fleck explains how and why validation is a catalyst for transformation, while taking us step-by-step through eight skills we can use to communicate it. With practice, these skills become a way of life, helping us to focus on the possibilities that unfold when we see ourselves and others for who we really are.

Auteur

Caroline Fleck, PhD, is a licensed psychologist, an adjunct clinical instructor at Stanford University, and a business consultant. She received her doctorate in psychology and neuroscience from Duke University and holds a BA in English and psychology from the University of Michigan. She is an expert in evidence-based treatments for individuals, couples, and parents, including DBT and cognitive behavioral therapy. She is renowned for her ability to help people make critical but challenging changes and is one of Silicon Valley’s most sought-after psychotherapists.

Résumé
Unlock the secret to true and lasting change.

We all spend a lot of energy trying to get the people in our lives to listen to us, and despite our best efforts, we often fail. But what if the secret to influencing others was to demonstrate acceptance?

Enter validation — communication that one is mindful, understands, and empathizes with another person's experience, thereby accepting it as valid. As both a means and an end, validation has profound effects, from improving relationships and de-escalating conflicts to increasing our ability to generate self-compassion and help people change their behavior. In this groundbreaking book, clinical psychologist Caroline Fleck explains why validation is one of psychotherapy’s best-kept secrets while taking us step-by-step through eight skills we can use to communicate it.

Full of “aha” moments and powerful takeaways, Validation reveals how the science of seeing and being seen is the key to inner and interpersonal transformation.